For the New Year

For the New Year, most people include — along with the ever-present weight loss goals — trying to be a better parent. That’s the thing about parenting, it always takes the very best you can give it, and it can feel like you can never give it enough. It’s important to remember that even small efforts make a big difference, especially when it comes to showing love to your kids.

Set small, “bite-sized” goals in your parenting, things you can quantify on a daily, maybe even on an hourly basis. You might decide to smile every time your kid walks into the room. Or set a goal to tell him or her that you love them every day. Make yourself tell him or her five positive things every day. Give him or her a hug or a friendly sort of pat when you come into the room. Even small gestures like this can make a big difference in your relationship.

Being the best parent also means being the best you. Remember, you can’t be a good parent unless you are strong inside yourself. Dr. Hyde says, “The best parents are morally mature and responsible in their own lives. They face life courageously, live principled lives, solve problems and cultivate an optimistic attitude.”

Live your life with meaning and purpose, and your kid will find that to be a powerful example that will have a big impact on his or her life.